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4 Purposes of Marriage

Carrying on from the previous post, marriage can be said to have 4 chief purposes. They apply to us today as much as they applied to Adam and Eve thousands of years ago!

  1. Companionship: God did not want Adam to be alone or lonely. [And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” (Gen.2:18)] Though every creature had a mate, Adam did not. So God created Eve to be Adam’s help meet and friend forever.
  2. Raising of children: “Be fruitful and multiply;” (Gen 1:28) was God’s command to Adam and Eve. He has equipped us with all the resources we need to to procreate and raise children for His glory.
  3. Intimacy: They say intimacy spells “into+me+see!” That’s true. In Genesis 2:24, we see that God purposed for a man to be joined to his wife (not his girlfriend or his fiancee or his ‘boyfriend’) and become one flesh. Such joining and becoming one flesh was only to be within the confines of a Biblical marriage covenant. But it doesn’t stop at that. Intimacy also means you share your deep fears, joys and traumas with your spouse. Marriage allows you to be intimate in every sphere of life, while at the same time giving a healthy space of solitude to your spouse.
  4. Security: In live-in relationships, there is no legal security. You cannot force your partner to co-habit with you. But when you truly love your chosen life partner, you want to give and receive a sense of security, that your bonding will be life-long. Only marriage can provide that. God knew we would need this security and so created the institution of marriage.

    God is truly amazing, isn’t He! He cares so much for us – for our physical, emotional, biological, social and spiritual needs. And He’s given us everything we will ever need to meet these needs. He’s truly Jehovah-jireh!


Great Marriages Make for Great Families

At one of our Sunday services, I heard a beautiful statement that still echoes in my ears:
“Great marriages make for great families and great families make for great churches.”

How true! Billy Graham’s wife Ruth was once asked if they ever argued and if she ever thought of divorcing him. She said they argued many times, but she never thought about divorce. But yes, she did think once about murdering him! Honest lady, indeed.

Well, no one is perfect. Love as a feeling is transient. So when you base your affections upon the emotion of love, you are vulnerable to its opposite – hatred. But love as a virtue is perfected by Jesus Christ himself, who died for us so that we could have happy marriages; so that our relationships could be healed through faith in him. And when we learn to love our spouses like he loves his Church, we too can walk in perfect love for our spouses. This is especially true for husbands, who the Bible says, should love their wives “just as Christ also loved the Church and gave himself for it.” (Eph.5:25)

Before I upload the next post, let me step back and assess if I love my wife the way Christ loves the Church!

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